Ever heard of someone considering a cam girl as their friend?

[CamBro69]

So a friend of mine...

He's always been a loyal patron of Hooters, Twin Peaks and other breastaraunts.

I also noticed he's been on Snapchat. So one day we started talking about OnlyFans girls and camgirls.

I'm the one who first introduced him to Chaturbate and he definitely enjoyed it.

Actually... I think he got REALLY attached to it, and some girls he chatted with.

And now he admits to me a few weeks later that he really considers "Amanda" (name withheld) a true friend that listens to him. And she's not just sexy but a really good friend.

I was like OK...uh...great.

He seems like a lonely guy. Does he realize cam girls are just faking their affection? Should I really sit him down and tell him, "Boy don't get attached. Cam girls are not your friends. They're just there to get you off and make money."

Or is that too cruel?

 

[JustMe56]

Well, the real question is Are cam girls capable of being a good friend?

And cautiously I would answer yes.

They could be "friends" in a general sense, or shall I say, friends with benefits. It's not like when I cam 2 cam, I just go in there and am like, "Suck it, baby!" That's idiotic.

I talk to the cam model like a person and we have an actual conversation. Like dating conversation. And that leads to romance and sex. All within 15 minutes, sure!

But I would say that some cam girls DO know me. They remember my name, or at least my fake stage name.

And we are friends. We are friends that realize we're never going to meet in person. I will probably quit them eventually. But for the time being, I like talking to them, and they like the arrangement we have.

What is really the difference between cam girls and friends with benefits you're just going to forget about in a few months/years?

Not much difference.

So I would be supportive of the lonely guy, and just kind of remind him, even though those chicks are cool...don't confuse them with a woman who wants a real relationship in the real world.

 

[Chucky33]

I think that's good advice. It's like kicking your friend when he's already down, saying she's not a real woman, stop falling in love with her!

I think your lonely friend probably knows it's not "real" and it isn't love.

But just like sometimes we talk to anonymous people online for connection, through text or whatever...camgirls are becoming a normal part of society.

 

[ExhiledBeaver]

Sorry, I disagree.

The power dynamic is way off in these cases. You can't be "friends" in an equal and respectful way with a camgirl you're ordering to suck your dick. This is not friendship at all. This is just sex and purely sex. Just because you're not an asshole and treating her respectfully doesn't mean you're friends.

It's a weird and unnatural relationship where a guy is demanding all these sexual favors for money, and then calling the woman his best friend. That's insane.

And no, I'm not just saying this as a feminist.

I feel sorry for your friend if he's deluded and lonely enough to think he's making real friends with camgirls online. Camgirls are there for sex and nothing else.

He may have fantasies he wants fulfilled, but he is not gaining any socialization from these experiences. It's damaging to his psyche to think these sex workers are going to be there for him as his friends.

He's mistaking money for effort, effort required to connect with other people in ways beyond just sex.

I wouldn't lecture him because he probably wouldn't take it well. But I would try to get that fellow out of the house and realize that these online flings are little more than just mindless cybersex.

 

[PhillCollins]

Oh come on, Beaver.

You've never talked to a stranger online before just for kicks, and then gulped when things got a little too heated or emotional?

It happens all the time. Boys outgrow it soon enough when they get a better offer - namely sex in person without required tipping.

 

[el-capitan]

Well, I don't 'tip' my boyfriend.

But I do continue to spoil him, don't I?